Emotional Sobriety

As crazy as it sounds, we can get "drunk" emotionally in our relationships from the toxicity and our emotional reaction to it. If you've ever gone through an extremely emotional experience in a relationship (an intense lengthy argument, a breakup, a crisis, an intervention, an ultimatum, abuse, a family fight, chronic prolonged problems, addictions, or a desperate appeal), you know that you can have an emotional hangover where you are exhausted physically, mentally, and spiritually.

When we allow ourselves to get so entangled with another person’s behavior that we are obsessed, desperate, panicky, controlling, dependent, angry, pushy, needy, and reactive, we will lose our emotional sobriety. Our thinking will become unclear, our emotions will be intense, and our actions unsound. We will do some of the following things:

** We will blur our boundaries and do what isn't in our best interest.

** We will try to convince ourselves to stay longer than we should.

** We will allow behavior we know isn't acceptable.

** We will push others to do what they don't want to do.

** We will lose our focus and forget to live our own lives.

** We will act in ways that we feel are shameful.

** We will over-react to small things and under-react to big things.

** We will lie, cover-up, excuse, rationalize, and deny.

** We will try to reason with unreasonable people.

** We will make choices driven by fear.

In contrast, being emotionally sober means you can:

** See the whole truth (your part, the other person's part, and all the contributing factors)

** Think clearly.

** Feel and identify your emotions.

** Act in a way that is reasonable, right, and healthy, regardless of what your emotions tell you to do.

Emotional sobriety means you are not being controlled by your emotional reaction to circumstances. You feel your emotions but don't allow them to dictate your actions. It allows you to live your life in the midst of imperfect people and relationships and stay detached. 

By Karla Downing

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LEADERSHIP IN TRIAL

In Genesis 39:20-23, because of God’s favour on Joseph, he earned the trust of the chief warder at an unprecedented level. This indicates that if people find it difficult to trust you, there is either an absence of divine favour on your life or you have shown yourself to be untrustworthy. Who will appoint a chronic womaniser as leader of youth? May you grow in God’s favour in Jesus Name.

Another benefit of divine favour is that favour gives you a place of leadership even in your wilderness experience. If you take a look at the life of Joseph, you will find that the leadership qualities in him were bottled up while he was at home, but as soon as he was sold into slavery and got to portiphar’s house, he began to express them. Same with when he got to the prison. This tells us that for some children of destiny, God will sharpen their leadership skills in the place of trails. While Joseph was with portiphar, he was put in charge of portiphar’s household. He did it so well that God needed a fairly bigger place to train him. And when He saw that the prison was an ideal place for this, the Lord allowed what happen to happen. His master did not even ask Joseph to give his side of the story; the next thing was that he landed in prison. Joseph thought he was going from frying pan to fire but God thought otherwise; God was taking him from managing the household of an officer to managing several delinquents from the society. When he was through with this, God moved him from prison to the throne where he would manage the household of the king, of all the top leaders in the kingdom, and the various household in Egypt, as well as households of other nations. Beloved, what determines the type of training and trail you go through in life is where God is taking you. Know that your trail is truly a destiny outcry. Never look down on what you go through during a trial of faith. It is for your good. Even Jesus went through suffering because He needed to learn obedience. Find out the key into it with Joy.

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HE ALREADY KNOWS

 We are told of how a particular man by a pool at Jerusalem was healed. He had been his there for 38 years expecting that one day it would be his turn to enter into the pool after the angel visits the pool. But on this fateful day, instead of the angel he was expecting, the creator of the angel visited him, this season, you will receive a personal visitation from the Most High God.

From this story, we can learn a few lessons. The first thing to note here is that Jesus saw him and knew that he had been there for 38 years. God has ability to see into the past, present and future. Hence, Revelation 1:8 says, He is both Alpha and Omega. Also, when Jesus arrived at the pool, he saw a crowd of sick people – all waiting like this man to take advantage of each other to first enter into the pool. But the Lord walked straight to him and asked if he wanted to be healed. From this, we clearly see that the Lord had determined to heal him ever before He left home that day. This clearly shows he already knew the man’s situation of helplessness. Act 15:18 says,

“Known unto God are all his works from the beginning of the world.”

                     

God knows you and He is fully acquainted with what you are going through. Are you passing through a situation that people are aware of but they don’t care about? Are you going through something so disgusting that you find it difficult to share it with others, including those who are close to you? God cares. He knows everything about that situation and He loves you. Infant, He knows more than you think you know about the situation – the cause, present and future effects, as well as the cure, and much more. More importantly, He wants to do something about it if only you will let Him. Like He asked the man at the pool, so He is asking you today: Do you want to be made whole? In other words, do you want your situation to change? If you do, then let Him into your heart, trust in Him and open up completely to Him. He will surely hear you. God is making a way for you to come out of your unpleasant situation this season.

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CAN INFATUATION BE REPLACED BY TRUE LOVE

                       

                       

Love and Infatuation are both intense emotions that one feels for another person. These feelings are most often confused for each other by many people. But the two feelings differ in their actuality of love, intensity and final outcome.
Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of relationship when sexual attraction is central.
 Associated with: Selfish uncontrollable desire
Symptoms: Urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk choices, reckless abandonment of what was once valued.
LOVE: can be described as feeling of intense affection for another person. It is most often talked about as an emotion between two persons. Hence is also sometimes referred to as interpersonal love.
Associated with: Attraction and chemistry.
Symptoms: Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance.

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